Posted by luna on June 30, 1999 at 00:20:26:
In Reply to: relationship separation & types posted by luna on June 27, 1999 at 00:54:25:
> I trust this will get through - not too familiar with this system or the etiquette involved. I'd like input from others as to your type and how you have dealt with relationship separations. How you feel your type has influenced how you go about this process would be beneficial as well. I would also like to dialogue with others about this topic. I am a 4w5 (I notice this has been a recent topic of discussion!) and take these things rather seriously! About a year ago I experienced an ending that was quite painful and had an opportunity to look at some of my own patterns. In keeping with the perspective of transformation through awareness of typology, I believe if we can become aware of our patterns through that awareness we can choose to do it differnetly next time. I also am seeing, though, how entrenched patterns become and how easy it is to "fall in" even when we are aware. Any comments???
Ryan: Am I doing this correctly??? Hope this gets through. Thanks for your response re: relationship separations. Actually we are in process of refining a survey right now and would be happy to get it to you sometime. It's rather lengthy. Basically, I'd like to hear about all aspects you mentioned - emotions, behavior, and rebound relationships. Ex. what were your emotional responses and can you relate them to your type? What was your behavior during the initial aspects of the separation. Did you choose to leave or did your partner? Do you see any patterns in your endings, are you more likely to leave or be left? Was there a final act which was "the straw that broke the camel's back? Was your partner aware of the real reasons? How long before you became involved in another relationship or was it while you were still involved? Basically this is meant to apply to relationships that have been significant. My questions are more involved and I'd be happy to pass on more later...It's getting late and I just arrived home and will be taking off early in the morning.
Hey, let me know if this came through! Night.