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Enneagram Main Board Archive Re: Where have all the 3's gone?Posted by Derf on June 30, 1999 at 00:53:51: In Reply to: Re: Where have all the 3's gone? posted by Quark on June 29, 1999 at 23:56:46: > **According to the 41st law of threeness..."It never hurts to suck up to the boss." I find that threes are either smarmy or superficial or both. I like the superficial types, but can't stand the self-congratulatory ooze of the smarmy types. > > At any rate what people find disturbing about unhealthy threes is they will do whatever it takes to make themselves exhaulted which forces the question wheather or not they even have souls. Sure they have souls. Yet, their ability to affirm their own self-esteem from within themselves is underdeveloped. Therefore, they must look to the outside, from image-brokering to feedback-fishing. So they have no lack of humanity or feeling; they merely have an imbalance of perspective. In a way, that's what we all have, but Threes depend emotionally on others more than any other type (in the way that Sixes depend mentally and Nines instinctually), so their self-esteem complex is perhaps the most pronounced. PS - compare Twos, who define themselves aggressively (actively, through self-extension), and Fours, who define themselves from within (imaginatively - the "fantasy self"). Also, it bears noting that self-definition "actively" or "from within" is not necessarily balanced or healthy.
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