Posted by Ronnie on June 30, 1999 at 02:49:42:
In Reply to: Re: others vs. self posted by Cecil on June 28, 1999 at 18:48:42:
> Ronnie,
> I am constantly facing this need of whether to put myself or others first. I am VERY aware (and pretty much always have been) of this constant tug-of-war. How do you deal with it (now that you are "aware" of it)? I know for me, the ideal answer is to maintain an even balance of keeping both people's interests evenly met, but it is VERY difficult balance to maintain. Ideally, the best way to determine that balance is obviously with the other person's input, but there are many times when the other person is not around and you are forced to answer on the spot without their input. Hard choices indeed.
> Cecil
Cecil,
I hope I could give you some well-thought rational answer, but becoming aware of how much this actually effects my life is so recent I'm still more of accepting it. I can't as of yet say much about the ways of dealing with it.
Ronnie