Re: Victor's message of 5/12/99 on "8 with 9 wing +a big 6 wing and a bit of 1 + 5"

Posted by victor on June 30, 1999 at 12:32:44:

In Reply to: Victor's message of 5/12/99 on "8 with 9 wing +a big 6 wing and a bit of 1 + 5" posted by Gigi on June 29, 1999 at 11:42:10:

> Victor, I sent a reply to your message on April 12th and it was posted right after yours. Please go and read it. Gigi..

> > I have done a enneagram course last year. I thought I was a nine. (the best example in the past is that I don't repear mij bike for several weeks because I can walk to. I wait till I gote the energy)
> > But last week I was very angry because a meeting went very slowly and no decisions were made. I was irritated and confronted the other members with this and putt them under pressure by putting my proposal on the table and asking them to decide about my proposal or else I would by gone after half an houre.
> > After that meeting I thought, my reaction is wrong, let it happen, don't interfere. But then I feels not right because I have to see what happens and do nothing.
> > Who can help my on this?
> I think you are a 6 because you procrastinate (not repairing your bike) and also mainly because you go back and forth between ideas and actions. You do something and next you decide against it. Immediately you go back to your first idea. This is how it goes with 6's. They vacillate. Since 6's are connected to 9's and 3's
> you could be showing those traits at times. But the main thing is that you are not sure of yourself. Regards, Gigi

Gigi,

Sorry, I did not respond on your message yet. I didn't look for an other message.

In the main time I think I am a 6. The main reason for that is that I can be angry sometimes but it is not the anger of an 8. I do not attack in all kind of ways and also not very personal, like an 8 does. So I must be an 6.

I didn't understand your remark on my statement of not repairing mij bike in former days. (I don,t know the word procrastinate) What do you mean with that.

Further, what do you mean by go back and forth between idea's and actions? Do you mean that I first have an idea and when I have taken action I look back and I doubt if I have done the wright thing? This is true because I always look very critical to my actions and look for points to do better. I cann't enjoy the action fully.

An example: A few days ago, I gave an course in my company. I have done a lot of thinks to let the course be an succes. Normally I am very stressed on the day of the course and check everything 3 times and I could not enjoy doing the course. But now I could be relaxed en enjoy giving the course because I said to myself you have done you very best and thats it. I will enjoy it. Mistakes or foults can happen but thats not important now. (I have done a personal development course where I learned to be more in "here and now" and not in the past of present and it helpes my a lot.)

Gigi,
I have an other question to you. I read you are a 3. I am probebly a 6. I finf it very difficult to but myself in the spotlights. To bring my successes to my bosses. It feels like bagging for a compliment, to me. I think a 3 has no difficulties with that because for her getting compliments/succes is her main coal. What do you feel when you are bringing your successes to your boss.
I know a collegue who is a 3. She likes her succes in the compagny but she doesn't like to be in the spotlights when she has her birthday. It looks this is not a 3 thing.

Thats all for this time. Hope hearing from you.

Victor

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