Posted by Gigi on July 10, 1999 at 14:52:54:
In Reply to: Re: Where have all the 3's gone? posted by Hal on July 01, 1999 at 13:57:33:
> > > > OK, 8's are doing what they have in mind, they don't care about this message business. 7's get bored quickly. 1's are afraid of being criticised. 4's prefer aesthetic things, so on. Whatever happened to 3's? Are we not supposed to put forth our nice images on this board and get appreciated? I thought we were to influence and convince people by saying a lot. Anyway, I am here to motivate you Let's have everything out. For example,I watch myself controlling other people. I like what I do. I sometimes thnk I am better than many people.. When my image is threatened I strike or I warn. This is enough for one go. Gigi
> > > I've done more than my share of 3-bashing in the past. So in the hopes of diffusing the latest crop below, and trying to shed more light on the question here...
> > > It seems that the main reason there aren't more 3's here is that they're just generally not into introspection. Even if you look at the enneagram in terms of typing other people, it still requires taking a good look at yourself. This seems to be something few 3's are willing to do; I'm guessing they often see things they don't like (as do all of us) and have no method for coping with these things other than putting them out of their minds.
> > > Can we assume, then, that you are one of the rare introspective 3's who's not afraid to cut yoself down a notch or two?
> > > - Hal -
> > Hal, you are right. 3's are either working hard and don't have time for chat, or they don't want to show and share feelings. Their image could be threatened. Besides, chatting does not bring succes; it is loss of time. This is the first time I am spending time on internet for talking, not for getting information. I am here because I am interested in the Enneagram and I do work on it. I came across it because I was into self-development. I am developing myself and doing work at the same time. I don't know which comes first; it is a hen-egg situation. It doesn't really matter!When I observe myself closely I find out that all the work I have put into the Enneagram has improved my self. (I do other things like Conflict Resolution and Mediation.)
> > Anyway, I was already into introspection, as you put it, when I read in the Enneagram that 3's "invest time and energy developing themselves." I said I am doing what I am supposed to be doing. It is amazing, this Enneagram. As a 3, I might add that whatever I am doing must take me somewhere and I must feel good about it; I strive at this. This makes life difficult sometimes. So? Bye for now, Gigi
> Gigi, you may be the first 3 I've met that I ever liked (well, my brother's a 3 and I love him, but he's a pain in the butt...) :-)
> - Hal -
Hal, I'm sorry, I didn't read your post until today. Just wanted to say thank you. Gigi