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Posted by Geenius at Wrok on April 17, 1998 at 11:38:42:

In Reply to: OK OK OK posted by HCS on April 17, 1998 at 10:23:20:

: So here I am. Dicovered I was a four yesterday. Michele was the one who led me to this discovery. All this time I thought I the only brilliant one on the planet and lo and behod there are more inside this little machine. Maybe I would have found some sooner if I had chosen to ever go out and not by shy and withdrawn while feeling that everyone else knew more than I while secretly knowing that was incorrect. Well, I am glad to have found out and now wish to communicate with others. But can someone tell me whi is compatible with a four as I have not ever been able to find out. Oh, I have had relatonships, but there is always a grey area that tortures me to no end.

Compatibility is more a function of level than of type. Any two healthy
people have the capacity to be happy with each other. Average people can
be happy too, but it will take a lot more work and bring a lot more stress.
Unhealthy people's psychological traps inevitably make them (and those
around them) unhappy, so it's unlikely that they will find themselves
truly compatible with anybody.

A healthy Four, for example, has come to terms with both his strengths and
his flaws and will not feel inadequate with any partner. An average Four's
partner will find him more difficult to deal with, as he can be moody,
difficult to reach, hesitant to act, disinclined to change and unconvinced
that others' "rules" apply to him, but average Fours are usually
interesting enough people that his partner might it worthwhile to put up
with the negatives in order to enjoy the person underneath. An unhealthy
Four will be self-destructive and generally impossible to deal with and
will probably end up driving away everyone who might care, no matter how
patient they are.

Knowing one's level is as important as knowing one's type.

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Re: Compatibility HCS 13:36:34 4/17/98 (1)
- Re: Compatibility Geenius at Wrok 13:17:18 4/21/98 (0)

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: : So here I am. Dicovered I was a four yesterday. Michele was the one who led me to this discovery. All this time I thought I the only brilliant one on the planet and lo and behod there are more inside this little machine. Maybe I would have found some sooner if I had chosen to ever go out and not by shy and withdrawn while feeling that everyone else knew more than I while secretly knowing that was incorrect. Well, I am glad to have found out and now wish to communicate with others. But can someone tell me whi is compatible with a four as I have not ever been able to find out. Oh, I have had relatonships, but there is always a grey area that tortures me to no end. : Compatibility is more a function of level than of type. Any two healthy : people have the capacity to be happy with each other. Average people can : be happy too, but it will take a lot more work and bring a lot more stress. : Unhealthy people's psychological traps inevitably make them (and those : around them) unhappy, so it's unlikely that they will find themselves : truly compatible with anybody. : A healthy Four, for example, has come to terms with both his strengths and : his flaws and will not feel inadequate with any partner. An average Four's : partner will find him more difficult to deal with, as he can be moody, : difficult to reach, hesitant to act, disinclined to change and unconvinced : that others' "rules" apply to him, but average Fours are usually : interesting enough people that his partner might it worthwhile to put up : with the negatives in order to enjoy the person underneath. An unhealthy : Four will be self-destructive and generally impossible to deal with and : will probably end up driving away everyone who might care, no matter how : patient they are. : Knowing one's level is as important as knowing one's type.

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