Re: 3 (& a mini defense lesson for all my listeners/clickers)

Posted by Cecil on September 04, 1999 at 02:34:52:

In Reply to: Re: 3 thing I wanted to say yesterday. posted by Perciever on September 02, 1999 at 16:05:44:

> Have you decided your type now? 2, 8, 4 ? My bet for your MB is ENFJ.

I agree. Definitely J, F, yes, N, yes, E, yes, his predominate function J is definitely Extraverted, definitely.

I still think he is a three (two wing).

But everytime I try to tell him, he gets mad at me, so that's why I have to tell 'someone else' what his type is. Because that way he won't get so mad at me, because then I could say, well, I never told YOU anything, I was talking to someone else.

(You know, the 'cloud the issue' technique, making it look like someone can't get angry because you weren't directing your comments at them.
In this case, preventing one from defending theirself, was managed by covering up the content of what was said, via making a big huge issue about first, second and third persons/parties, [divert the defender/derail them off their track]. Here it was a simple matter of, getting them to focus on the who instead of the what. Just switch the pronoun focus. Handy little trick, isn't it?)

By the way, Ronnie, for you (and others reading this),I was actually demostrating a "technique" with language that has been used on me by several people.

Something made me want to use it right now so I could demonstrate to whoever may read this, show how it works, so that should they ever fall 'victim' to it, they won't let the distracter/derailers get away with stopping you from defending your feelings, by getting you to 'redirect' your focus off of defending you, and instead onto defending them.

Cecil

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• Re: 3 (& a mini defense lesson for all my listeners/clickers) Ronnie 03:57:24 9/04/99 (8)
  • Re: 3 (& a mini defense lesson for all my listeners/clickers) Emma 09:48:21 9/04/99 (1)
    • Re: 3 (& a mini defense lesson for all my listeners/clickers) Ronnie 10:07:19 9/04/99 (0)
  • Re: 3 (& a mini defense lesson for all my listeners/clickers) Cecil 07:27:37 9/04/99 (5)
    • Re: 3 (& a mini defense lesson for all my listeners/clickers) Tiggy 15:40:32 9/04/99 (4)
      • Re: J vs. P (MBTI) language habit differences Cecil 16:41:18 9/04/99 (3)
        • Re: J vs. P (MBTI) language habit differences Tiggy - and I disagree 17:45:54 9/04/99 (0)
        • Re: J vs. P (MBTI) language habit differences Ronnie 17:17:52 9/04/99 (1)
          • Re: J vs. P (MBTI) language habit differences Summer 14:04:51 9/07/99 (0)

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